MY VIRGINITY : A Brass bounded cognizance

For women especially, virginity has become the easy answer -- the morality quick fix. You can be vapid, stupid, and unethical, but so long as you've never had sex, you're a "good" (i.e. "moral") girl and therefore worthy of praise.' JESSICA VALENTI, The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women. . Such a surprise, ain't so? A new born baby grows up to be a beautiful girl. She plays with toys and is innocent about the world. She grows up a bit more and undergoes biological changes within her. She bleeds! The society calls her impure for her natural cycle. She grows up a bit more and is an young adult now. She finds the world ecstatic and wishes to explore everything. She has SEX. Bang on! Shit! She loses her virginity. She's a second hand material now. Ab log kya kahenge? (What will people say?) She has slept with somebody who's not her husband. She talks about it to her friends. She says that she willingly had done everything the last noon. And she receives such admiration, such words of praises from them! One say, " I can't believe that you turned out to be such a hypocrite", while the other calls her, 'kya characterless ladki hai tu' (What a characterless girl you are). Does everything about a girl lies in her vagina? Then why not so for a man? All her life a girl strives to make her own identity in this world and all of that gets lost in her after losing her virginity? She becomes a bad girl, a girl with no morals, no virtues, and what not. A mere organ of the human body undergoes an experience and boom, every notion about her changes. How much more can a society be hypocritical? Virginity is typically seen as a finite resource that each person is born with and can only spend on one person. Its like if each newborn baby is given a lucky dollar with the words "My Virginity" written on it in permanent marker. That lucky dollar can only be given to one other person, and then it's taken out of circulation and incinerated.

No refunds, no returns, no take-backsies. And this lucky dollar seems to be more important for baby girls to hold onto than baby boys. For some reason, her dollar is worth more. Wow, society. Just wow!

- Debasmita Ghosh

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