By T.S. Dinesh Nadar
The style has evolved over the years. Gone are the days where the youngsters were forced to wear the traditional churidars and sarees. Well, almost. A few things aren’t fast enough to catch up with the trends. Sloths, snails, tortoises and our mindsets, to name a few.
What’s the fuss about mindsets? Sure, some of them invented great stuff like the Tesla Model S and the Nissan GTR, but then, the numbers are few. A major part is stupid enough to believe women ‘dressing inappropriately’ is like inviting to have sex. That’s not true, even in the movies. But the society as we have it is as dumb as we can have it, and things need a second look to think straight. Here is where I come, writing (typing) in full glory.
Dr. Doofus is here to save the day.
WHAT MADE ME WRITE THIS?
No, it is not a new topic. Newspapers say it, online articles say it and even your sanskaari neighbors say the same. But does a piece of fabric mean that someone is willing to have sex? I thought it was a stupid opinion undeserving of a second thought, only to be rudely shocked to see the number of men believing in it.
A recent post by an Instagram handle provided me enough evidence to believe it happens.
HOW TO DRESS ‘INAPPROPRIATELY’?
If wearing shorts or sleeveless shirts is inappropriate enough to prompt a rape, then what would you call a person’s eyes hungrily staring at the woman? Decent?
In the right minds, hopefully not.
Dressing appropriately is wearing a gown to a wedding and a swimsuit to a beach. The extreme opposite, dressing inappropriately, is wearing a swimsuit to your wedding or a funeral. That should be termed as a poor dressing sense.
Wearing shorts, ripped jeans, blah blah blah (I don’t know much about style) is purely the choice of the person and by no means describes the personality of a person or invite to be raped.
SEE. THINK. BELIEVE.
Oh gentlemen, if ripped jeans and funky hairstyles are fashion statements, the same applies to all other people. Women don’t think you want to have sex just because you dress wildly. If they don’t, why should you do otherwise?
It only takes a second glance at your mindset to correct your thoughts. Sadly, many of our second glances are targeted at inappropriate places. If you’re manly enough, you should probably ask her about her dressing sense and not make assumptions.
Nothing suffices for a yes, you guessed it, yes. That should make things simple, no matter how bad we men are at decoding women. Backing away from you isn’t a sign of foreplay and definitely not a yes. And if the doubt persists, be sure to get them cleared by the person concerned.
I don’t want to explain things like ‘Freedom, liberty, fraternity, etc.’ or other things you may have learnt in your history class. As boring as they might be, those classes are actually right.
THE TAKEAWAY
People are crazy. Some dressing senses defy imagination and sometimes even logic. But by no way do they say anything, well apart from, the person is different. Unique or weird, I don’t know, but surely not a consent to have sex.
It’s good to see in a world subjugated to normalcy, to give ourselves a break from the norms.
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